On waxing and feminism

I have a Brazilian. And I’m a feminist

Not an easy admission to make (the Brazilian, not the feminist bit) on the internet when it could go out to millions of people (god I hope my children don’t read this!),  but one brought about by reading yet another ‘feminist’ article on why Brazilian waxing is so bad for women.

I also shave my legs and underarms (every day); dye my hair (every six weeks); have “treatments” on my face; and diet and exercise. Though there’s been very little of the last lately – relationships really do make you fat!

So if I’m a feminist and I believe women should be accepted for who they are, why do I do it?

Because I want to get laid.

Same reason everybody – women and men – does what they do to make themselves more attractive.

And while you might say that nobody can see your vagina while you’re chatting them up and getting to know them, being attractive is not just about looking good. It’s much more about the way you feel about yourself and the image you project from that. And having a Brazilian really does make you feel sexy.

Importantly, it doesn’t make me feel like I’m a 12 year old adolescent. Nor does it make my partner feel that way. I can’t speak for everybody, but I really don’t think Brazilian waxing is about infantilising women or turning men into paedophiles.

It’s about sex – getting it, and getting it better.

Too many men can’t find a clitoris as it is. Maybe removing the hair so they can see what they’re doing will make it easier for them. That’s probably why some women leave a “landing strip” – to point men in the right direction.  Though for some men even that’s too subtle. They need an arrow, and flashing lights “Here it is boys, you can’t miss it!”

Before you get any ideas – Doc isn’t one of those. He knows very well where my clitoris is, and he knows what to do with it. I figure the least I can do for him is to make the whole experience better. After all, he doesn’t like hair in his mouth any more than I do.

As a feminist, and a woman, I want to know why shaving my legs and dying my hair is ok, but a Brazilian wax and face ‘treatments’ aren’t? Is it ok to have blonde hair as long as I don’t touch the wrinkles on my face?  Can I remove the hair on my legs but not my vagina? What about upper lip waxing? Do you have to have a moustache like a 70s porn star before that’s ok?

And if I’m not allowed to do anything to alter my appearance do men have to stop shaving?

I’m confused. Just where do you draw the line between what’s acceptable and what’s not?

Women, and men, have always done things to make them more attractive to the opposite sex.  Throughout the years men as well as women have had some ridiculous and constricting fashions. Think Henry VIII or Louis XIV XV & XVI, to name just a couple of periods.

A Brazilian wax is not like foot binding. It takes 10 minutes once or twice a fortnight and doesn’t stop you doing anything you want to do. You can still swim, ride a horse or play tennis (but unlike using tampons only as long as you could do those things before you had a Brazilian). You can even sit around in your trackies and watch television.

And nobody is forcing you to have one. A quick vox pop would indicate there are still more women who don’t get a Brazilian than who do.

As with everything women do to themselves, some men like it, some men don’t. And if a bloke won’t have sex with you because you don’t have a Brazilian. Guess what. He’s probably not the type of person you want to sleep with anyway.  Stop whining and tell him to grow up and piss off.

But stop telling me I can’t do it just because you don’t want to.

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